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Comparison Is Killing Millennials

Ever since I was young, I have looked at those around me and compared myself to them. I know that everything looks different from an outside point of view, and their lives aren’t as perfectΒ as they seem. However, I still have those thoughts that make me feel like I don’t measure up. Comparison is the thief of joy, dreams and aspirations. The moment we compare ourselves to someone else, and make ourselves the inferior of the two – we effectively take ourselves out of the game. Comparing ourselves to others around us can magnify any doubt we have in ourselves that we otherwise would have brushed off.

Now, obviously comparison isn’t reserved for millenials. However in the age of social media we have access to more “perfect” ideals. Scrolling through Instagram and Facebook all day means we are exposed to thousands of contrived images of perfection and comments that either offend us or make us feel less important.

When at uni this year I noticed how much we all talked about grades others got. How others were writing their assignments. Even how many words we were all writing for our final project. If someone asked my group how much we’d written, we always got met with gasps. We wrote a LOT. But writing a lot doesn’t mean a better grade, so when other groups suddenly started frantically adding content it made me think that they had compared their assignment to ours. Why? We were two different groups writing two different projects. Comparison madeΒ us all doubt what we were proud of a few seconds ago!

It’s the same in anything we do as humans. Whether it’s how we dress, how many friends we have, how often we go out – our self worth seems to depend more and more on what others around us are doing. How sad is that. As I’ve entered my 20’s, I’ve become aware of other ways we compare ourselves to others. It used to be clothes we wore and how many boys we’d kissed, now it seems to be job titles, who’s getting married first and who earns the most money.

We need to remember that just because someone else has a great life, doesn’t mean that we can’t. Someone else’s ability to get a job doesn’t affect our ability. Someone else’s successes don’t take away our opportunities. We have to start looking at ourselves as individuals instead of putting ourselves in a group with others to compete with. Celebrate other people’s wins and focus on your own goals and achievements! We are all going to do amazing things at different points in our lives. Being in our 20’s just so happens to feel like the time we need to do it all.

I hope this inspired at least one of you to stop comparing yourself to others! Cause you’re pretty cool how you are.

As always, love Lyd x

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12 Comments

  • Reply Shahrzad

    Hi Lydia, this post really resonates with me right now as I’m constantly comparing myself with everyone around me & it’s making me feel inadequate. Then I have to remind myself who I am & be true to myself. It’s hard as you say with social media but I’m determined to get there! X

    November 26, 2016 at 12:56 pm
    • Reply lydiamicha

      It’s really hard I agree! I find myself thinking “I work just as hard why can’t I have that?” But it’s just a matter of timing and focussing on your own goals and successes x

      November 26, 2016 at 12:58 pm
  • Reply Chenae Sketchley

    Lyd this post is amazing! Something that I truly believe in. You are killing it over here on your blog and the new design looks beautiful. Much love from me xxx

    November 26, 2016 at 2:53 pm
    • Reply lydiamicha

      Thank you! Miss you! πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•

      November 26, 2016 at 2:57 pm
  • Reply Erin Azmir

    Amazing post Lydia! I really need this xx

    http://www.erinazmir.com

    November 26, 2016 at 10:14 pm
    • Reply lydiamicha

      πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•

      November 26, 2016 at 10:15 pm
  • Reply Rachel Eileen

    I love this post so much! I feel like with social media, I am constantly comparing myself to other people, this is such a great reminder to focus on ourselves sometimes! πŸ™‚

    Rachel | racheleileen.com

    November 27, 2016 at 7:56 am
    • Reply lydiamicha

      Me too! It can be especially hard with blogging etc x

      November 27, 2016 at 9:30 am
  • Reply Emma Bought What

    This is such a great post! I’m always comparing myself to others and I know I really need to stop! x

    http://emmaboughtwhat.blogspot.co.uk/

    November 28, 2016 at 3:50 am
    • Reply lydiamicha

      Thanks Emma! πŸ’•πŸ’•

      November 28, 2016 at 7:05 am
  • Reply Kelsey

    This post is wonderful. I so often find myself doing this and sometimes I don’t even realise I’m just making myself feel worse than going out and doing great things myself.

    I’m so glad I found your blog πŸ™‚ X

    November 28, 2016 at 10:58 am
    • Reply lydiamicha

      Yay I’m so glad you like it! Yeah the other day I was feeling a bit down and I suddenly thought πŸ’­ hang on? I’m smart and funny and kind, who needs to be super fit and slim too?! Haha! πŸ’•

      November 28, 2016 at 11:05 am

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